The sex urge had captured him so much he could barely think of anything but to release and get a relief. Suddenly his life was paused and he saw 3 years ahead, a video of the consequence of that 3 minutes act: he has a child outside marriage; he has STD; he has lost his wife; damaged reputation and the consequent regret makes him emotionally unstable; he has now been sacked, living in frustration and now getting into depression. He sees his destiny shattered in just 3 years by his 3 minutes submission to lust.
As the picture disappeared, his emotional combustion evaporated instantly; he ran out of the room abandoning the lady; he ran back home to his wife.
How I wish every man can access such impossible videos at the point of breaking the vow.
There are countless stories of great men who through just one act of infidelity have created crisis (sometimes irreparable) for generations after them.
Yes! they remained great. Yes! God forgave them indeed. Yes! all things may appear to still work for ‘good’… but the law of cause and effect, seed-sowing and harvest usually takes its place. Abraham, David and many other great men in scriptures and in our world today would have chosen to hold back if they’d had the opportunity to watch the future effect of such fall.
Looking again at the story of the one the angel of God called a mighty man of valor, Gideon, I saw how an abuse of a man’s sex emotion can destroy his entire household, regardless of his heroic achievements.
Gideon had seventy sons who were his own offspring, for he had many wives!
“And his concubine who was in Shechem also bore him a son, whose name he called Abimelech” – Judges 8:30-31.
In a gruesome desire to become king over Israel and having secure the backing of the people of Shechem, Abimelech killed the 70 sons of Gideon for he considered them only as competitors to the throne. Gideon’s entire generation (except for Jotham) was wiped out by a singular act of infidelity, outside of his official 30 wives!
This is not a self-righteous or condemnation-tied post, neither is it to rule out God’s unchanging commitment to forgiving us, no matter our sins. As a matter of truth (not fact), we have been forgiven, even before we surfaced… we only need to recognize, embrace and live out such a righteous life received by grace though faith. This is to remind us of the reality of actions and consequences, cause and effect, seed-sowing and harvest which God has said would remain as long as the earth remains. A single match-stick can set a whole house on fire. It is better to quench the urge to light such than to take for granted its effect.
We must guard our hearts with all diligence…
We must flee from all appearances of evil…
We must be committed to studying God’s word; it gives light and direction…
We must consciously allow the Holy Spirit to regulate our conduct…
We must live a prayerful life…
We must take conscious decisions about family, ‘being’ together as couples…
We must love our wives unconditionally
When men take their God-ordained positions as God’s partners in replicating heaven on earth, building a home that will outlast us, making our wives and children our uncompromisable legacies, teaching our homes godly values and kingdom-relevant principles, then indeed the kingdoms of this world will cumulatively be the kingdom of our God.
Let’s pray that men indeed live to fulfill God’s mandate on earth.
Femi Owoyele (@fowoyele)